I wrote a blog post back in February about hair loss, celebrations, holidays & talked a little bit about dating. However, as someone who is recently single & dealing with hair loss, putting myself back out into the world of dating (in person, as well as online) is something feels a bit intimidating.
Dating, as well as meeting someone new can be an exciting, yet nerve-wracking experience, filled with anticipation and hope for a meaningful connection.
However, as many of us know, navigating the dating scene can become even more challenging when you're experiencing hair loss.
Whether you're grappling with alopecia, thinning hair, or any other form of hair loss, it's important to remember that your worth and attractiveness extend far beyond your physical appearance.
Here are a few things I’ve been trying to remind myself before putting myself out there, into the world of wonder.
1. Love yourself, and show up as you are. Remind yourself that you are more than your hair. Embrace your unique qualities, personality, and inner beauty. By developing a positive self-image, you'll exude confidence that will attract others to you.
2. Be Authentic. The world of dating as we know it is constantly changing, and while it’s easy to sometimes channel your alter ego (especially when online dating), and hide behind a screen, it’s hard to hide who you are when finally meeting up with someone you’ve met online.. I know that lately I’ve been playing with the idea of starting a dating profile that has recent photos (including photos with and without my hair), as I feel like that is the most authentic way I can show up for myself, and takes away the added stress of telling someone. I’m a true believer that honesty is key to building a genuine connection, and potential partners should appreciate your transparency from the start. Focus on showcasing your personality and interests rather than obsessing over your hair loss.
*this may not be the case for everyone & if you’re not at that point in your hair loss journey, that’s TOTALLY okay!! Do what works best for you!*
3. Timing is everything. There’s no set rule of when you should tell your new partner about your hair loss, however it can play a huge role in how you connect with that person. Especially if you are constantly worried about being intimate while wearing wigs or toppers, or feel that you cannot be your “true” self around that person. Remember that trust and emotional connection play crucial roles in deciding when to tell your new partner. Trust your instincts and choose a moment when you feel comfortable and secure in your relationship.
4. Be open and Communicate: When the time comes to discuss your hair loss, approach the conversation with confidence (even if you’re scared to death). Allow yourself to express your feelings and emotions. Remember that if you don’t feel comfortable sharing everything about your hair loss journey with your partner right away, that’s okay - just be sure to let them know that you’ll bring it up again when you’re ready.
5. Educate your partner about hair loss, its causes, and the fact that it is a common issue faced by many. By providing information, you enable your partner to understand your situation better and offer support. We all know how taboo the topic of hair loss can be - and chances are, unless that person has struggled with it themselves, or knows someone who has, it may be a completely foreign subject to them.
6. Remind yourself that you are more than just your hair loss. You have strengths and amazing qualities. You are unique. You are passionate about your hobbies, talents and work. Your hair loss doesn’t define you, and should never define the way someone sees you.
Finally, keep in mind that a genuine connection means finding someone who appreciates you for who you are, not just your appearance & what you’re going through. If your partner reacts negatively or shows a lack of understanding, it’s probably a sign that they are not the right person for you.
Surround yourself with people who support and uplift you through your hair loss journey.